If I were still in high school, I’d begin this letter by saying, “the brightness of the sun has given me the warmth to write you this letter”. Well I have grown beyond that so let’s start with my...
If I were still in high school, I’d begin this letter by saying, “the brightness of the sun has given me the warmth to write you this letter”. Well I have grown beyond that so let’s start with my vows to you.
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My dear, it is important to write this letter so that you know exactly what you are getting into. love is not enough to sustain a marriage. Marriage requires a lot of effort, and I hope you can understand that our willingness to stay together through thick and thin will be the strength to keep us together.
I’m far from being perfect. I don’t know if I qualify to be an introvert because once you break my shell, I’m as mad as a March hare. I’m sometimes strict. I’m sure it seems from the fact that I’m a first born. I’m also crazy with fashion. I may look tamed now so don’t be surprised if that madness resurfaces. I can’t wait to help pick your clothes for you. I will dress you up and admire the hell out of you.
I’m a good listener. I can listen to you for hours but the problem is I will say less or nothing at all. If that’s a problem, allow me to write down my response to whatever you tell me. Don’t worry, I have a good memory, I won’t forget any line. I will remember every little thing you do for me because those are the things that sweep me off my feet. Unfortunately I will remember the ugly ones too. Forgiveness does not destroy my memory. I apologize in advance for that. But once I say I have forgiven you, trust me on it. I will apologize whenever I’m wrong.
I believe in speaking a love language my partner’s understands. It makes the whole thing of love, passion and romance simple. My primary love language is the act of service. Going out of your way to help me with things I can do by myself and those I can’t do by myself is the best way to show me that you adore me. This has nothing to do with feminism, and don’t tell me I’ve been watching too much telenovela either. All I want is a helping husband.
I’m sure we won’t fit perfectly like bolts and nuts, so conflict will be inevitable. When I am angry, I will be quiet. This is not because I am not ready to solve the problem, rather it’s because I’m scared of the things that may come out of my mouth. Believe me, when I am angry, my own thoughts frighten me. Don’t force me to speak, we will regret it when everything is over.Once I calm down, we will solve the problem, and you will see that we will even laugh about it. How we deal with these conflicts will determine our future. We can settle our differences without loud and lengthy arguments.
I hate lies. I’d like you to remember this even in your sleep. It’s like you are insulting my intelligence when you look in my face and lie to me. It’s one of the things I’m still struggling to forgive others for. Please trust me, no matter how ugly the truth is, I will get mad, go mute then calm down for us to have our inevitable civilized, honest and satisfying conversation. Just don’t lie to me, please. Lies have the tendency of breaking my trust in you.
You will be marrying into my family. It’s therefore very important to me that those I care about love and accept you. I won’t want a situation of having to choose between any of you because you are all important to me.
I’m blessed to have you. I’m sure God gave me you with the intention of making you bring out the best in me. God Himself will be our strength and just as my name implies I’m strong because my saviour lives. We will make a great team. When we take this step together, just know there’s no turning back. Cheers to a Christ centred marriage.
I will end here with a song from Ruelle, I get to love you.
One look at you
My whole life falls in line
I prayed for you
Before I called you mine
Oh, I can’t believe it’s true sometimes
Oh, I can’t believe it’s true
I get to love you
It’s the best thing that I’ll ever do
I get to love you
It’s a promise I’m making to you
Whatever may come your heart I will choose
Forever I’m yours, forever I do
I get to love you
Your Mrs.
Happy Valentine’s day Kings and Queens. Thanks for reading.
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