Since many years, I had a 1993 edition of this fantastic self-help book titled "Thoughts to Build On" by M. R. Kopmeyer which, for reasons unknown, I could never read. Finally last week, I noticed it when I was...
Since many years, I had a 1993 edition of this fantastic self-help book titled “Thoughts to Build On” by M. R. Kopmeyer which, for reasons unknown, I could never read.
Finally last week, I noticed it when I was clearing my bookshelf and was hooked to it.
Sharing below, the list of ideas that resonated strongly with me in no particular order (“long list but worth it” alert)
The best investment you can make is in “YOU”. All that we are is a result of what we have “thought”. What we will be depends on what and how we think today Always think “first class”. Don’t clutter your mind with second class thoughts. Life isn’t going to give you any more than what you ask for. Live one day at a time. Shut out all yesterdays. Shut out all tomorrows. Then you will have only one day’s problems to conquer. As Alcoholics Anonymous say, “Do not decide to stop drinking forever. Just decide that you will not take a drink today. Not forever. Just one day. Divide and conquer. Your personal guidance system (intuition) cannot correct the direction in which you are moving – if you are not moving. Keep moving. Don’t stop. Don’t hesitate or fear of making an error.
Success or failure is caused more by mental attitudes than by mental capacities
Aggression is always a consequence of frustration.
Practice in your imagination. The practice you do in your imagination is perfect way to engage the subconscious mind. Have an important meeting? Practice in your imagination. Have a performance coming up? Practice in your imagination.
There is much in a strength in knowing that the darkest day will surely pass. Taking a long view of life makes it easy to bear challenges of life.
Life’s little irritations and annoyances can add up to a large amount of unhappiness. Overcome this by being too thick skinned to be bothered by little emotional mosquito bites, by ignoring or forgetting at once all minor annoyances as they come.
To be effective, you must be selective in choosing the responsibilities you will accept.
All of us wear big, invisible signs across our chests reading: “I want to be important. I want to be admired. I want to be appreciated.” If you know this, you will be able to deal with almost all kinds of people.
Count your blessings with such mental and emotional emphasis that your personality becomes radiant with the sheer joy of being alive. Develop the gratitude muscle.
To Deescalate hate:
Know that being different and opposite does not always, and need not ever, cause hate.
Seek, recognize and emphasize similarities.
Tolerate differences.
In most cases – all avoidable – we initiate our own troubles by two actions:
Unnecessary involvement, or much worse, over-involvement, and
Unnecessary reaction or, much worse, over-reaction.
Invest in creating your memory bank. Go to interesting, unusual, memorable places. Do interesting things. Meet and talk with interesting and memorable people.
All of us direct our own lives by the choices. How careful we must be in choosing our roads, because some day we shall look back on all choices and say, “THAT has made all the difference.”
And no one has the power
To tell just when the hands will stop,
At late or early hour.
NOW is the only time you own
Love, live, toil with a will;
Place no faith in tomorrow, for
The clock may then be still.” Be prepared for inevitability – Be neither overwhelmed nor surprised by misfortune, we shall respond as we have prepared to do, with calm acceptance and serenity. Don’t TALK your way to success, ASK your way through it. As others to give you information you need to succeed. Ask others to do what you want them to do to help you succeed. As others what they need from you in order to succeed. Participation is the antidote of withdrawal and mental depression. Talk is a means to participate, engage and stay healthy. When in doubt, talk it out. Listen with intent to understand and recognize, not with an intent to respond or react. When it gets darkest, the stars come out. DO the thing and you will have power. Start now – without hesitation or fear, because power to do, comes with the doing, and as you do the thing, you will have the power.
Laughter is your declaration of superiority over whatever befalls you.
Habits begin as cobwebs and end as cables, and when they get to the “cable” stage, habits are not easily broken.
Try to escape, and your problems follow you everywhere. Grapple with it and solve it, and then it is gone forever. Struggle makes us stronger and gives us wings.
Pay attention to what you pay attention to. Attention is our scarcest resource.
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