July 21, 2021

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Hello everyone. This is Steve posting. The last few weeks have been unlike anything weve known. The number of messages have been overwhelming, and I apologize that I havent been able to respond to each. Trying to wrap our...

Hello everyone. This is Steve posting. The last few weeks have been unlike anything weve known. The number of messages have been overwhelming, and I apologize that I havent been able to respond to each. Trying to wrap our heads around all of this. For almost two and a half years, amidst the fear and anxiety, there was hope almost expectation. It was unreal of a kind. This cant be happening. Somehow things seemed to calm, after all of the initial treatments, and we naively imagined that this wasnt happening.

Were reading your messages Im reading them to Kelly. No, there is nothing more we can do medically as far as the cancer goes. But there is something in Kelly that keeps on fighting no matter the final outcome.

How is Kelly doing? Shes struggling with the limitations that the cancer has put on her body. She wakes every morning wanting to get up out of bed Wanting to do the things shes done every day. The left side of her body wont co-operate, but shes determined. She will be very calm and relaxed at times but anxiety, panic, and claustrophobia can take over. She likes calm and peace, and on calm days she will joke and laugh And give me and Steph attitude and smile and laugh a lot.

Kelly is very aware that the cancer is attacking her brain. What she wants and feels and desires are still there. The frustration of an inability to communicate all she feels, or make her body answer to her, is apparent.

When it all started then surgery, radiation, chemo the monitoring began. And MRI after MRI showed stable. About a year ago, when we got the MRI that showed not stable We knew it was coming, but not really After that, Kelly started making notes. Its obvious that her intention was to expound on these, but shes asked me to share these notes as they are.

Scattered Memories A Memoir
Or
Life I Dont Know. A Memoir.

Lets start at the beginning. Tuesday, January 5, 1982, 1:01 am. That was mine. As good a day as any I suppose.
When does memory truly begin? I dont know what my first was. My childhood memories feel scattered in my brain. I was told that when I was 3 years old I accepted Jesus into my heart as my Lord and Saviour and that I became a Christian then. Do I remember that? No. Its funny the things that seemed so important at a different time. Like it was necessary for my relationship with God to be set in stone at a certain point. Throughout my young years I just believed because thats what I was told. But I didnt feel like I really knew for myself.

Grandma Abbassreligion, the church, GodHot summer night, basement, Woodward, reading books, the 3 of usleaf forts, raspberry bush, rhubarb patch, flowers we ate the nectar fromroad to avonlea, anne of green gables, pride and prejudicethe blue castlehow hard school was for medadsinging, choirs, churchmodeling fashion show in grade 8, going to an agency at 15drama classfirst taste of death Aunt Gailwhere the fear of my own death and my loved ones began. Debilitating fear of choking. Refused to eat. Had to eat baby food.when I started eating again my go to was granola and yogurt. And thus began the chubby, self conscious years.the fear of choking and death happened again when I was 13. Lost a bunch of weighta life of being self conscious, then finding my place in modelingmodeling journeySteve Our Relationship & LifeBisexualityMarriage How that came about Blue Green EyesFear of death and cancer since childhood. Always thinking that I would eventually get cancer and die.Depression, purposeful isolationAlways wanting romance and to be swept off my feet in a magical Disney sort of way. But as I got older and I was still seriously awkward about guys I started to believe that I would have to marry a random church guy, probably picked by my mom, and then pop out babiesRealization that I didnt want to have my own kids Steph & Haley my fur babiesEvey, Daisy, Domino & RipleyCleoSteph & Haleyrebuilding relationship with mombecoming friends with my sisterwriting lyrics and songs, the journeyJobsPanic attacks and anxiety, leaving workHeadache, face droop & slurring, hospital etc, finding out I had a mass in my brainMy brain cancer journey


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